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There are several forms of female orgasm singled out by sexologists nowadays. Based on the localization of an orgasm there are four physiological forms – clitoral, vaginal, uterine (the orgasm of the cervix), and perineal, as well as several pathological ones – oral, rectal (or anal), and nipple ones.

An orgasm is a complex psycho-physiological process, which is based on the corresponding processes in the brain. The stimulation of the brain’s specific zones of pleasure leads to an objective display of an orgasm. These zones are turned on under the influence of the impulses going through the female reproductive organs. The female’s body motor activity resembles seizures. In some cases the body tenses up and stretches out, the pelvis lifts up and the whole body arches supported by the back of the head and the heels, the hands tense up and stretch out, jaws clench, eyes are tightly shut. In other cases the body arches, wiggles, makes heaving motions, hands and legs make sharp chaotic movements, the head spins in all directions. All of this is accompanied with sounds effects (cries, screams, sobs, wails, squeaking of the teeth, as well as the sounds muted by the willpower or by the spasm of the speech muscles, moans, sighs, and so on). Sometimes separate words and incoherent phrases escape the mouth. A spasm takes place, which is quite an abrupt contraction of the muscles of vagina, uterus, perineum and other muscles of the small pelvis. Usually a young girl that has not given birth and has a well-developed muscular system has 2-3 strong spasms and several weak ones, which gradually die out. Women who have a weaker muscular system, are older, and have given birth have only one strong spasm and 1-2 weak ones. All of these spasms can be felt with the man’s penis. The increase of the discharge in the vagina sometimes is so drastic that the penis loses the feeling of the vaginal walls. In rare cases a large amount of fluid even overflows outside. During the orgasm the nipples increase in volume and harden (the nipple erection).

So how important is it for male and female sexual organs to be of matching size in order for a woman to be able to reach an orgasm? There has always been a significant importance given to the size of reproductive organs in sexology and in society. In reality things are way simpler. First of all, a successful sexual life does not require a penis of particularly large size. It is well known that a woman can experience four types of orgasms, three out of which (clitoral, vaginal, and perineal) do not depend at all on the size of male genitals. The fourth type of orgasm – the uterine one – requires the penis to be a certain length, but a quite moderate one, since the majority of women have their cervix situated relatively not deep. There are no correlations that exist between the overall size of the man’s body, namely the size of a man’s penis, and the size of a woman’s vagina. The anatomical non-conformity can take place only when there is an obvious vaginal pathology (its underdevelopment, scarry stricture due to previous injuries, burns, and so on). In all other cases the male and female sexual organs present a functional system, in which the vagina can stretch a great deal if a man’s penis is large, and on the contrary, it can contract and tightly envelop a small penis.

So what is a clitoral orgasm? There used to be a wide-spread opinion that this type of orgasm is characteristic for very young women, and as women get older the orgasm relocates to the vagina. However, it is not so. The clitoral orgasm can be characteristic for any woman regardless of her age, constitution, and so on.

In order to reach a clitoral orgasm the clitoral stimulation is necessary. Women, whose most common orgasm is a clitoral one, can almost never reach it if having sex in the most common missionary position. The clitoris remains outside of the area of stimulation. When having a sexual intercourse in the missionary position, the necessary stimulation of the clitoris is achieved by its contact with the dorsum of the penis, for which the penis should be inserted under an angle (top-down). It is possible if the distance between the clitoris and the vagina’s entrance is normal (about 1 inch). If the clitoris is located higher, the penis will not reach it. In this case it is necessary to either change the position or to apply small monotonous stimulating movements to the clitoris with your finger during foreplay and the sexual intercourse itself. The clitoris’ head is rich in blood vessels and nerve endings, therefore stimulating it with your hand should be very light and tender. Sometimes it is useful to use vaseline or to moisture your finger by inserting it into the vagina. If the clitoris’ head is too sensitive the finger stimulation can be transferred higher. These parts of the clitoris are hidden deeper and so the stimulation can be stronger. Women with the clitoral type of orgasm will not enjoy having sex from behind. The following position is way more acceptable: start having sex in the classical missionary position and then push the woman’s legs together, so that the penis was stimulating the clitoris with every friction. You can switch places – a man on the bottom, and a woman on top. The signs of the clitoral orgasm are a considerable increase of the clitoris’ size (an erection), and its temperature rising.

The second type of female orgasm is a vaginal one, or commonly known as the g-spot orgasm. The erogenous area in this case is the lower third of the front wall of the vagina, which requires a special technique consisting of the tight pressing of a penis to the front wall of the vagina during frictions. You can also practice small frictions that are not deep and affect only the lower part of the vagina, which would intensify the impact on the lower third of the front wall of the vagina. There are also cases of the combination orgasm or the clitoral-vaginal orgasm. To achieve it, try to simultaneously stimulate both the clitoris and the front wall of the vagina during foreplay, and to simultaneously stimulate both erogenous zones with your penis or hand during the intercourse.

To achieve any type of orgasm, it is necessary for the cavernous bodies of the clitoris to be filled with blood to the maximum, and the lower part of the vagina is covered with the muscles tightly connected to the cavernous bodies. When contracting these muscles, a woman not only intensifies the filling of her own cavernous bodies by contracting the base of the penis during the intercourse but also complicates the blood’s outflow from the cavernous bodies thus intensifying the partner’s erection and creating additional pleasurable sensations.

Unfortunately, these important muscles do not always work to their full potential. Some women have them low-power, and some women do not properly use them. The sexologist’s task is to teach a woman to use these muscles in both cases. The power of any cross-striated muscle increases with exercising therefore women should do a special sex work-out: flex the main vaginal muscle-constrictor over and over again on a daily basis.

The lower third of the vagina and perineal muscles play a very important role in the body. They form an orgasmic sleeve, the contractions of which (5-12 contractions with 0.8 seconds interval) create the vaginal orgasm. After an orgasm the vaginal sleeve and the walls quickly relax. With the vaginal form of orgasm a woman can experience pleasure in any position.

During the uterine orgasm the contractions of the uterus start from its bottom and transfer to the whole body. The strength of the uterine contractions equals to the strength of the orgasm. This orgasm is known for the so-called “suction effect”, when the cervix “sticks” to the upper part of the vagina, after which the uterus goes back to the original position.

This type of orgasm requires the stimulation of the cervix. If a penis is not very long or if the vagina is too big, a penis may not reach the cervix. In this case, a woman should lie on her back and pull her legs to the stomach, which shortens the vagina considerably. Another option is for a man to lie on his back and for a woman to squat down on top of him. Sometimes the cervix is situated not in the posterior fornix of the uterus, but instead is facing forward. In order to put the uterus back into its place, you should change the position, so that a woman is lying down on her stomach or on her side. In this position the penis goes not in the posterior fornix, but in the front one. If a woman is obese, the coitus is only possible in the position when a woman is on her side with her legs strongly bent in her hip joints or in a classic Bozeman’s position when a woman is on her knees leaning on her forearms and a man is standing on his knees behind her, commonly known as doggy style. This same position is almost the only possible position to have sex if a man is obese.

The technique of the sexual intercourse to achieve this type of orgasm consists in a man carrying out deep frictions thus rhythmically stimulating the cervix and the posterior fornix of the uterus. Although you should avoid hitting the cervix too hard.

The fourth type of orgasm and a very rare one is the perineal orgasm. The nerve impulses start in the perineum when it comes into the state of vibration. Women with this type of orgasm sometimes experience it while riding a horse, a bicycle or a motorcycle. The technique of the sexual intercourse consists in stimulating the lower part of the vaginal back wall with the head of the penis.

So what happens to a woman after the sexual intercourse? The woman’s sexual arousal goes down gradually, and because of this women are sensitive to the men’s sexual indifference after the intercourse is over. There are a lot of complaints about men switching to routine conversations right away or even falling asleep. These complaints express the women’s need in the post-coition caresses. These caresses should not be of sexual nature and thus should not be about stimulating the erogenous zones, but on the contrary consist of the stimulating the non-erogenous zones of a woman’s body. The psychological content of these caresses is the display of gratefulness, tenderness, emotional relaxedness. At the same time during the post-coition caresses a woman is displaying her gratefulness to a man and her appraisal of him as a sexual partner. Every man during and after the sexual intercourse has a hidden need to receive the assessment of his actions from a woman. It contributes to his self-affirmation but at the same time a man becomes especially vulnerable to any kind of reproaches. This is why it is important that a woman expresses any concerns she might have about the foreplay and the intercourse itself at any time but not immediately after sex. At this time a woman’s assessment should be positive no matter what. Keep in mind that this is not only the concluding assessment of that night’s intimacy, but also the stimulus for the future. A man will always want to live up to the woman’s assessment especially if it was slightly above the objective evaluation. Of course sometimes life takes over and a husband or a wife still have to get up after just being intimate and go take care of the everyday stuff, but psychologically the best state of being after sex is sleep. A woman should always fall asleep before a man, resting in his embrace, and not the other way around.

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The best way for a woman to decode her orgasm is by getting to know her own body. Self-pleasuring (commonly called “masturbation”) is a way of finding a deeper connection to your own life-force energy, which is the power of creation that flows through all of life. It can even be a spiritual practice when it is done with Presence, awe and reverence. Through self-pleasuring, a woman can learn to expand her awareness and capacity for Bliss.

Self-pleasuring allows you time to discover what excites you without being concerned about pleasing your partner. You get to experiment with different types of touch, pressure, speed and find new erogenous zones. I recommend self-pleasuring several times this week. Take your time and connect deeply with yourself. Let your inner body-wisdom guide you. As you touch yourself, stay present to where the energy flows. Allow your sessions to be an adventure in self-discovery.

Notice if any resistance comes up around self- pleasuring. If it does, ask yourself these questions: What is my relationship to pleasure? Do I make time for it in my life? How often? Do I find reasons for not giving myself pleasure? If you are in a habit of limiting the amount of pleasure in your life, explore what old beliefs you have about pleasure, sex, and masturbation. You may be harboring sexual shame or guilt. You may feel that spending time on yourself is wasteful or selfish. Now is a good time to reframe those beliefs by restating them in ways that are sex and pleasure-positive.

Once you have explored the nuances of pleasuring yourself and feel confident in your ability to bring yourself to orgasm, you may want to share this wisdom with your lover. Learning to share how you like to be loved is a great way to deepen intimacy with your partner and increases the likelihood of being touched in ways that most arouse and satisfy you. This requires an important communication skill, called the “3-Part Communication.”

The 3-Part Communication

1) Acknowledge the person for something they are doing well: “I love it when you caress me back.” or “Thank you for being willing to spend this time with me.”

2) Ask for what you want: “What would feel even better to me in this moment is for you to touch me even more slowly.”

3) Appreciate and acknowledge the change: ” Oh yes. That feels so good! You are doing it just right.” This communication style will dramatically increase the likelihood of being touched in a way that pleases you and makes your lover feel good too.

As you take personal responsibility for your desires being met, you will be want to release old beliefs that no longer serve you such as, “It’s my lover’s job to magically figure out what turns me on.” These kinds of ideas lead to feelings of being hurt and/or disappointed. Instead, recognize you are the generator of your orgasms. By learning what turns you on and asking for what feels good in the moment, you can expand your capacity for ecstasy.

Learning to decode your orgasm through practicing self-pleasuring and learning to express your sexual desires adds a whole new dimension to your lovemaking. It is a great way to increase self-awareness and expand your capacity for Bliss. It can also add juice to a new or ongoing sexual relationship. Enjoy!

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Achieving orgasm is the highlight of any sexual activity and either party (the man or the woman) is not going to be satisfied if he or she does not attain orgasm. A man would also have great satisfaction with the whole experience if his partner gets orgasmic heights! What must a man do to make a girl orgasm fast? There are ways to make such an experience happen and not necessarily in such order.

First is the sexual position. It’s best to dry various sexual positions aside from the conventional “missionary” position. Each sexual position has its benefits and every woman has different sexual needs. It’s also nice to break away from your usual positions, especially if you have been together for a while.

Second is foreplay, which stimulates a woman and makes her excited to have a quick orgasm. Each woman prefers different things. As you have understood the things that make her sexually happy, use that to make her reach that orgasm faster.

Third is “talking dirty.” However, not all women prefer this kind of play. If this is the woman’s thing, then talking dirty is what you need to make your girl achieve her climax faster.

Fourth is penetration depth. Shallow or deep women are different and the depth that makes them come will vary. Just be sure not to go too deep as it may hinder the woman’s ability to orgasm.

Fifth is controlling ejaculation. Unlike men, women need more time to reach a climax. It’s best for the man to climax almost after she has reached her own, thus it’s best to hold that ejaculation. The longer a man lasts may also result in the woman having multiple orgasms, when combined with the other steps.

Sixth is to pay attention to your girl. Understanding her moves, moans and facial expressions, is your goal. If she’s not excited, then change your tactics. This step may keep you to hit her “G-spot” and get her to reach orgasm faster. This also helps at what pace you want to go.

Use the above steps and you will be guaranteed that she will reach orgasm faster. Just practice the techniques; work on them, and sooner or later, your methods will be automatic. You will thank yourself and your girl will be thanking you even more. Follow the above methods and you and your woman will have an amazing sex life!

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Men focus so much on how to please a woman that we sometimes forget how to enhance our own male orgasm. It is vital to pay close attention to your own orgasmic needs as well! With these male orgasm tips you can easily discover how to amp up your own male orgasm. The advantage to discovering how to enhance your own male orgasm will, in turn, enhance hers as well in the process!

When your engaging in sex be aware of what’s going on around you. It’s easy to get enticed to the grand finale and instant gratification, but there is a lot more to the male orgasm than simply the end ejaculate! Much more goes on behind the scenes and in this article we will unravel the 9 ways to enhance the male orgasm. So here goes:

1.Use your imagination, Fantasize!

Fantasizing about being sexually involved with your partner in a dangerous situation, role play that your both strangers and that you don’t even know her name! This can help to enhance the sensations, make them seem new, exciting,titillating and most often lead to a very powerful, orgasmic burst.

It’s ok to fantasize that she’s the woman of your dreams also, close your eyes in between and let your imagination run wild…..She just doesn’t have to know about it. Just make sure you don’t call her the wrong name!

2.Realize and acknowledge physical sensations

Totally get engulfed in physical sensations such as noises surrounding you, her moans,your moans or even some music in the background(if you chose to add this sensation). Use your hands to feel her body against yours and explore other areas of her body. Kiss,taste her body. The point is to fully engage all your senses. This will make your orgasm more intense.

Spice it up a notch: Use mirrors to look at the two of you getting it on. If your both in great physical shape there’s a 100% chance this will totally engage your senses and arouse you both mentally and physically!

3.Spice it up with some bondage!

There’s no denying that there is some pleasure to be had in some forms of pain. Spanking, choking,candle wax drippings and even hair pulling can often lead to pretty unforgettable orgasms. Don’t be afraid to explore your wild side. Just make sure your partner is willing to engage in these forms of sexual activities first.

4.Practice tightening and releasing your muscles.

You can try this with your pelvic, thigh or PC(penis base) muscles.Tightening and releasing these muscles will serve to make your orgasm and final orgasm an unforgettable one.

Just practice this “behind the scenes” in a way that your partner won’t even know. Trust me, this practice definitely enhances the male orgasm twofold! And when you finally reach ejaculate it will be 100 times more intensified! You can also exercise your kegel muscles or tighten your thighs while engaging in sex to help intensify the male orgasm.

Kegel exercise definitions:

-Exercises done to strengthen the pelvic floor, which can help you push more efficiently during delivery and can help recovery. To do Kegel exercises, contract and hold the muscles used to stop the flow of urine.

-A set of exercises designed to improve the strength of the muscles used in urinating

5.Interrupt sex often right before your ready to explode.

Interrupting the sex right before your about to ejaculate will not only intensify your orgasm and ejaculate at the “grand finale”, it will also intensify hers also. Often times if a woman begs a man to keep going when things are really hot and intense, and he doesn’t, chances are that he will have an orgasmic squirter on his hands. You will also be keeping her on the edge of her orgasm….literally! It’s not all about just climaxing and dropping to sleep. Delaying male orgasm will often lead to a much more satisfying climactic finale-for you both!

6.Have your partner stimulate other parts of your body

Oddly enough many men are afraid to admit they enjoy this, but the anus is where the male orgasm,aka male g-spot is found. While your engaging in intercourse, have her rub the outside of your anus, or even use her finger to massage your prostate; WARNING: This may lead to one hell of an orgasm!

7. Focus deeply on your orgasm.

When you feel your about to erupt and experience the tip of the male orgasm or ejaculate,slow down! Penetrate at a much slower pace when you are in “ejaculate mode”, focus on the sensations involved and when your finally there,imagine it’s way out with more than just the force out of your member. Try to focus on your orgasm as a total body and mental “release”. This will intensify it two-fold.

8.Use your PC muscle to pull back from the point of no return.

As you feel yourself coming closer to climax stop the stimulation as you have in the past, but this time squeeze your PC muscle and hold it for a few seconds. Notice how this feels. This is the technique you can use to prevent yourself from ejaculating and create the opportunity to have several orgasms in a row.

9.Before you truly understand the male orgasm, take some time to understand your basis of it.

The work here is simple and fun: pleasure yourself (masturbate) as you would regularly, and pay close attention.

What things do you do to get turned on?

What happens to your body after orgasm?

What happens to your body and your breathing as you become even more stimulated?

What does it feel like just before an orgasm? Just before you ejaculate?

So now that you’ve learned a few tips that can enhance and turn your male orgasm into a life-altering, mind-blowing experience, use your new found powers wisely and intuitively to make your love life sizzle and experience the BEST orgasms,climaxes and out-of-this world ejaculations sizzle!

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